A lot of people think that if they just looked better, were more successful, or were skinnier, they will feel more comfortable in their own skin. But experts say that being confident is not just about having a beautiful appearance.
Even model talent management agencies that handle the careers of the most classically beautiful faces in the world emphasize: no beauty tips will help you until you learn and understand what self-worth is. Instead of filling your mind with thoughts of the things you wish you had, you must find beauty in things you already have, whether this pertains to your appearance, personality, or your career.
If you want to become more confident in your own skin, here are six ways for you to do just that.
1. Build Your Self-Worth
Instead of validating your worth through other people’s opinions, you must find your self-worth to become confident in who you are. If you are a perfectionist or you live for other people’s validation, you are prohibiting yourself from becoming comfortable in your own skin because you are living based on other people’s standards.
If you live this way, building self-worth will take much more effort. You need to teach yourself how to overcome self-doubt, discomfort and insecurity. You need to develop your own realistic standards for yourself, and learn to quit living in the shadow of others.
2. Be More Self-Aware
Becoming self-aware does not happen overnight. However, taking baby steps to become more aware of yourself will help you grow more confident.
Be willing to see the good, ugly, bad, and exceptional things in yourself. When listing your strengths and weaknesses, do not judge yourself – all you have to do is to gather as much information as you can about who you are.
If there are things about your character or aspects of your life you feel need to change, work towards realizing them by making them part of your life goals.
3. Accept Your Weaknesses
While on your quest to develop self-awareness, you should also try to accept all your characteristics, or practice self-acceptance. Accept all the qualities you have discovered about yourself. Accept your weaknesses one at a time. Seasoned female models agree that in doing so, you will begin feeling more comfortable in your own skin, regardless of what other people say.
4. Surround Yourself with Positive Individuals
Nobody is perfect! But if you surround yourself with happy and positive people, you will most like become happy and contented with your life. It will also be a lot easier for you to foster self-acceptance because you often hear good comments, and feel encouraged.
5. Practice Gratitude
Avoid taking yourself for granted, even if you do not mean to. Always remember the great things you have contributed to the world no matter how small they may seem, and learn to be grateful for everything you have right now.
Be thankful for all the good things you have already done and can still do using your mind, your body, your spirit and your personality.
6. Practice Self-Care
Do not be harsh on yourself. Everybody makes mistakes so you should not punish yourself each time you commit one. Instead, learn from your mistakes and make it a point not to repeat them. Also, see if you can make fun of your mistakes whenever possible. Remember that the more easygoing you are, the better you will feel.
Practicing self-care means being kind and doing nice things for yourself. For instance, you can create a wellness routine that prioritizes your well-being. This can be a routine you always do first thing in the morning, or just before going to bed.
This can include meditating, going to your favorite beauty salon, taking vitamins, drinking your favorite nutritious smoothie, or reading for inspiration. Having a wellness routine will boost your confidence because you are putting your needs first. By properly taking care of yourself, you will feel more comfortable in your own skin.
Overcoming your insecurities in life may be difficult, but it is not impossible. As long as you strive to remain true to yourself, you will eventually become confident in your own skin.
Jessicka Bell co-founded the AgenC, one of the leading model/talent agencies in the Middle East, in 2014. After just three years in the market, the AgenC now works with most (if not all) of the heavy hitters in media and fashion, as well as represents over 1,000 talents ranging from international models through to cast, kids, creatives and photographers.